grief

I MISS YOU

This weekend I am with those who are grieving the death of a dear friend, Tom Beers.

This is one of those deeply felt losses which leave a ragged and gaping whole in your life.

This has been a season of losing people. Funerals have been far too frequent.

A year ago I wrote a poem from the perspective of believers losing a loved one in the Lord. If grief is touching your life, I hope these words are a balm of comfort.

I miss you

You were there, always

In warmth and knowing

How can I own this absence

Where do I put this sorrow

 

I know

you are not gone

But you are away

It seems so far

Yet memories are near

And your love is even closer

 

Life

had been full, for you were in it

Now a gaping space is here

It feels as if there is no way around it

I cannot find my way around it

Maybe for now there isn’t one

 

Thoughts

of you fall like rain, gentle and steady

Memories are like stands of autumn trees

       proud in their display

 Or summer fields fragrant in bloom

       gathered and shared

 

One day

you will no longer be far

This hurting is what will be distant

All will be healed

Not patched, but whole and new

New memories will flow, endlessly

 

Today

you know what angels sound like

You have seen the scars that made you  

       forever free

You have heard His voice

Heard Him say your name

 

I just took a breath

which means there is one less between

When you, me, He, we

Forever are in the center of all life is   

       meant to be

 

I miss you

because I love you

Because He loves me,

I only have to miss you for awhile

Kyle Huber 2013

A PERSPECTIVE ON DEATH and LOSS

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Last year R.C. Sproul Jr (son of the famous author and theologian) lost his wife, Denise, to the invasion of cancer. Afterward he wrote these thoughts which reflect the pain and hope believers experience in the death of those we love who are in Christ.

“Denise was carried by Jesus out of the valley of the shadow of death. She now dances with Him on the mountain of the lightness of life. She has, rightly, wisely, and through the very love of our Savior, left me. And I feel lost. By His grace, however, I have a path to follow. For His pierced feet leave bloody prints all the way out of the valley, all the way up the mountain. I will follow Him, who promised to be with me, even until the end of the age. He is a blessed man to dance with her. I am a blessed man to follow Him.”

 

WHAT DO WE SAY ABOUT THE UNSPEAKABLE?

Newtown, Connecticut. Those two words no longer bring to mind thoughts of an ordinary American town. Now they haunt us through a grotesque human tragedy.

How do we process these unimaginable events that have become all too vivid in our minds? There is much to sort through as individuals and as a nation, but in these days we grieve and pray.

What I will present today are a couple thoughts to help lead where we go from here.

We can never make sense of great evil

Oh, we can and should find connections, but there was nothing logical in what Adam Lanza did or thought. Evil corrupted his heart and cast out reason.

As time goes on we may understand early threads that charted his dark course. But there is a vital lesson that should leap out at us. Sin should always be greatly feared.

It is too easy to think the path Adam took has nothing remotely in common with our sins. Yes, the degree of his sin is rare, although not as rare as we think – unspeakable things are committed every minute of the day – but the reality that sin always corrupts and always destroys what God made good is a graphic reality we face every day.

Fear sin, immediately and always. When we hate our sin in its early beginnings, it can never mature to darker forms.

No has been more pained than God

God created each individual whose life was taken. God has eternally known each parent, family member and friend whose heart has been ripped apart. God had good desires for Adam, which he spurned and then trampled.

The heart wrenching sights, sounds and feelings that have seared the waking hearts of hundreds if not thousands never leave the attention of God who does not sleep.

So many questions quickly come to us: Where was God? Why didn’t God ….? Surely these or similar questions have tugged at or even shouted in your minds. We simply cannot understand those “whys”, we can only trust Who.

If your response is to say, you could never again trust a God who didn’t stop this horror; recognize the only way for God to stop all human horrors, is to destroy all human sinners.

There is an answer that we have been given. God has an eternal answer for the sorrows of our world. The answer is Jesus Christ, who entered this world in order to die for sinners. By taking the just punishment our sins deserve, Jesus made it possible for us to be reconciled to God with unbreakable bonds. By his death and resurrection Jesus conquered sin, death and evil.

When will we see the consummation of this victory? When God rids the world of all sin and establishes His Kingdom which will never be touched by sorrow. On the day when as the Bible tells us:

“He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.” (Revelation 21:4)

For many of us, the initial response to the unfolding of this horror, was to pull our children near and hold them tight, whispering to them of our love. The heart of your Heavenly Father holds more love than ours. He reaches out to draw you near. His arms are strong to hold you, they ache to hold you. And His voice whispers of love that will “never fail”. In this moment He assures us again, I will never leave or forsake you – I will never let you go.