Parenting questions


Parenting is filled with a wide range of challenges and struggles.

As time goes on the complexities increase, and second guessing the job we’ve done can become a significant burden as our children are about to leave for college or other out of our reach places.

The truth is, none of us will become the first perfect parent.

But each of us can improve in our parenting. One tool to help us improve is asking the right questions. The best questions are those which open our child’s hearts to us, AND questions that reveal how we are doing as a parent.

It takes courage to ask questions that may reveal our failures, but the risk of continuing in failure is not a trait to be admired.

You love your children and they love you. Developing a relationship where these questions go back and forth will help create healthy communication that continues throughout our lifetime.

Rick Gamache is senior pastor of Sovereign Grace Church in Bloomington, Minnesota. Rick has cultivated this habit and shared these questions which he asks his children:

How are your devotions?

What is God teaching you?

In your own words, what is the gospel?

Is there a specific sin you’re aware of that you need my help defeating?

Are you more aware of my encouragement or my criticism?

What’s Daddy most passionate about?

Do I act the same at church as I do when I’m at home?

Are you aware of my love for you? Is there any way I’ve sinned against you that I’ve not repented of?

Do you have any observations for me?

How am I doing as a dad?

How have Sunday’s sermons impacted you?

Does my relationship with Mom make you excited to be married?

Gamache added, “On top of these things, with my older kids, I’m always inquiring about their relationships with their friends and making sure God and his gospel are the center of those relationships. And I look for every opportunity to praise their mother and increase their appreciation and love for her.”

 Taken from “Stand; A Call for the Endurance of the Saints”  Edited by Justin Taylor